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A Simple Guide to the Father of the Bride Speech

Jun 28, 2021

Your daughter is getting married. So many emotions are running through your mind…and heart. The Father of the Bride speech is beginning to loom over your head, and your anxiety level is mounting. Don’t let that happen. Here is a simple guide to the Father of the Bride speech that is sure to be a stress reliever.

What is the father of the bride speech?

The father of the bride speech traditionally occurs at the opening or conclusion of the toasts performed during the wedding reception. It is a personal preference and is determined by the bride, groom, and dad. Many dads prefer to kick off the toasts by going first (and getting it over with).

As the father of the bride, you sit in a unique chair. You have watched your daughter grow into the woman standing before you. You also have been a witness to her commitment and love for her soon-to-be husband.

How long is the father of the bride speech?

Hey Dads! I want to set your mind at ease. Stick to an outline or hire a Father of the Bride speechwriter to ensure succinct and focused content for the speech. Some speechwriters will rehearse the speech with you, and depending on your comfort level of public speaking, it may be well worth the investment! The father of the bride speech should be between four and six minutes- no more.

How do you write a father of the bride speech?

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My daughter’s basketball coach used to ask the team, “How do you eat an elephant?” They will all reply in unison, “One bite at a time!” The same holds for the father of the bride speech, so let’s break it down into small bites.

Introduce yourself as the father of the bride.

Feel free to thank everyone for sharing their special day. Be sure to thank anyone who planned the wedding, including your wife, bridesmaids, and professional planners. Some couples ask that a mention be made to family members who cannot attend or have passed away and have had a significant effect on the couple. You may wish to hint that the maid of honor and the best man will also be speaking after you.

Share your thoughts on the wedding day so far.

A brief mention will be about the ceremony and perhaps, literally, a few seconds on a particular segment such as the united candle lighting or a song sung by a relative.

Comment on your relationship with the bride.

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Ok dads, you have to hold it together here. This is an emotional moment in time. I have been married 32 years, so this was not a thing in my day, but my military dad was very emotional.

Select a moment or event that stands out for both of you. Then, show your daughter and the groom how much the experience meant to you.

Share your thoughts about the groom.

Speak directly to the groom. Show him you were paying attention as their relationship bloomed, and you are happy he is now a part of the family.

Welcome them as a couple. Perhaps share a little advice?

At this point, you need to be mindful of the time. The temptation to share a lifetime of stories is excellent but select one, maybe two, about their relationship that made the most impact- on all of you.

Raise a glass and toast!

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Share your feelings from the heart. That is all you have to do.

How much does it cost to hire a speechwriter?

The cost associated with hiring wedding speechwriters vary depending on a few fundamental factors:

  • Length of the speech. Some writers have a minimum, and if you require more than the minimum, the price can increase slightly. Get a detailed quote.
  • Research time. In many cases, the writer will meet with the father to gather information and facts for the blog speech. Inexpensive options include services that require a questionnaire to be completed and the speech delivered without meeting or speaking at all.
  • Location of the business and the client. New York City and some metropolitan areas will most likely be 20-25% higher than hiring a speechwriter in Niskayuna or Canandaigua, New York.
  • What’s in the package? There is more to this than words on paper. A good father of the bride speech is created from conversations, meetings, zooms, and a review at the end with possibly a rehearsal. That is what makes the speech your own. 

Why should you hire a father of the bride speechwriter?

At first glance, writing the father of the bride speech doesn’t seem too difficult. You probably think you can Google it or watch it on YouTube. Perhaps, but her special day requires your time and commitment to making it perfect.

I compose the Father of the Bride speech with you, not for you. So give us a try and schedule a free consultation to collaborate on the ideal father of the bride speech. (We work together and practice the delivery too!)

Please note- No matter how you proceed with the father of the bride speech, please do not wing it, and do not drink before you deliver this forever moment speech.

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